10 Things I Believe About Student Ministry

Student ministry is a lot like riding a roller coaster with its ups and downs and with its moments of overwhelming exhilaration and moments of devastating discouragement.  But, even more than being like a roller coaster, I think student ministry is like waiting in line for a roller coaster.  You stand, and you wait.  Then, you stand, and you wait some more.  All the while, you remain focused on the amazing thrill that comes when months, or years even, of waiting finally come together as you finally see the lightbulb go off for a student.

And, there are no Flashpasses in student ministry.  There are no shortcuts that allow you to skip ahead to the front of the line.  As a matter of fact, most veteran student pastors will tell you that you spend a lot more time in the line waiting than you ever do enjoying the breath-taking thrill of watching a student “get it.”  However, another thing most veteran youth pastors will tell you is that the waiting is absolutely worth it.

However, if we are not careful, the waiting can crush us.  It can push us to the brink of insanity, and it can cause us to question everything from our call into ministry to our ministry philosophy and strategy.  That is why it is critical for every student pastor to know what he unquestionably believes about student ministry.  Knowing what we believe and why will help us to make it through the long lines of student ministry and will allow us to easily remind ourselves of why we do what we do.

Below, I have charted out 10 of my student ministry convictions.  These are the truths that I find myself coming back to again and again while I wait.  Take a look and see what you think.  In no particular order:

1. Missions teach students the heart of Christ.  I have found nothing the draws students closer to Christ than serving others.  Mission trips and projects do not produce the synthetic highs that are often associated with youth camps (although I believe these have their place), but they instead allow students to experience the unexplainable satisfaction that comes from being exhausted in Christ.  This creates growth and maturity, not false highs.
2. Families have more influence than I do.  A study shows that the most committed students allow us 40 hours a year to invest in them; excluding sleep time, school time, and practice time, parents have an average of over 3000 hours in a year to invest into their children.  Every youth pastor likes to feel as though they are the most important spiritual influence in the lives of their students, but the reality is that God didn’t design it that way.  Parents are intended to be the primary disciplers of their children.  We need to figure out how to invest our 40 hours into their 3000 hours.
3. Student ministry works, and it’s worth it.  Student ministry is hard, it’s frustrating, and it’s often brutal.  But, I believe it works, and I believe it’s worth it.  When I find myself discouraged, I often remind myself of the stories of students that I have witnessed God transform in front of my eyes.
4. Teaching can be deep and heavy.  Teenagers don’t need Christianity-light.  They can handle God’s word…..ALL of it.  There is no need to water down weighty teachings.  There is nothing wrong with humor or object lessons, but there is something wrong with avoiding diving into deep truths.  It is these deep truths that will allow students to have a foundation which they can build a life-long faith.  I would rather students grow into the teaching than never grow past it.
5. Discipleship happens one-on-one.  John Ortberg says that disciples are hand-crafted not mass produced.  Jesus invested one-on-one into his disciples so that they would in turn do the same.  While you can’t be one-on-one with every student, you must be one-on-one with some students, and you must enable every student the opportunity to be one-on-one with an adult who is mature in the faith.  If there is no one-on-one disciple-making, there is no disciple-making.
6. Having fun is not sinful or insignificant.  While I believe that students can handle the deep and heavy, I also believe there is real value in having fun.  Having fun allows students to grow closer together and allows them to better connect with their leaders.  Having fun breaks down barriers and enables conversation.  Having fun shouldn’t take center-stage in our student ministries, but it definitely has a place.
7. Relationships enable accountability.  Accountability is necessary for the maturation and sanctification of any believer, including teenagers.  However, attempting accountability without the presence of a relationship is devastating.  Students will not respond and will most likely withdraw altogether.  Relationships are time consuming and take a lot of work, but they empower us to bring healthy accountability into the lives of students.
8. Success is measured in time, not numbers.  Every student pastor has struggled with playing the numbers game, and every veteran youth pastor has played the numbers game and lost.  If you gauge the success of your ministry upon the numbers that attend, you will be miserable.  There will be times of mountain-top highs and rock-bottom lows.  We don’t gauge the success of our families based upon how many people are in them, and we shouldn’t gauge the success of our student ministries based solely upon how many are attending.  The real success of our student ministries will be discovered by the types of husbands/wives, fathers/mothers, and church leaders that they produce.
9. Behind every great ministry is a great team.  By great, I’m not really referring to talent, even though that doesn’t hurt.  I’m referring to true greatness; the type of greatness that Jesus taught his disciples.  A humble leadership team consisting of small group leaders, parents, and staff members is a necessity for the effectiveness of any ministry.  There can be no lone rangers in student ministry.  It takes a team.  A great (humble) team.  One of my greatest pleasures is serving with a great ministry team.
10. Teaching moments are everything.  One of the constant truths that our ministry team talks about most often is the importance of taking advantage of the teaching moments.  We often teach, hoping that something sticks.  However, divine teaching moments simply require our obedience, and they are almost guaranteed to stick.  Teaching moments are everywhere; we must be intentional in seeking them out and making the most of them.